I want a serious commitment with someone that’s ready for me. This is a very common assertion, and I believe it is usually false for one reason: intent.
Let’s start with a working definition: Playing games: intentionally manipulating someone to keep him/her guessing and off-balance. I can’t handle this.” Are these messages all over the map? Are they so inconsistent that any reasonable woman would feel highly confused?
Early-stage TMI is a major turn-off for most males.
What complicates matters more are pre-existing patterns, modern gender roles, and generational differences. A man who’s self-confidence equals or may even overshadow my own. And after three months, if he’s not all-in, then he’s OUT. Or he got so used to the status quo that, when she pulled away, he missed what they had. It’s best to cut him off entirely until he lets you know he definitely wants an exclusive relationship and actively shows it. If you’re dating the once-a-week date/text guy for 6 weeks, you should probably cut him off. You choose men who want commitment and actively pursue it. You get over this notion that men are playing games with you. I probably in retrospect did the same back and forth as the guy in the post. As for the guy in the post, I’d say he just wanted a FWB situation and was disappointed when she didn’t keep sleeping with him.Absence creates anticipation and a feeling of "If I don't see her now, I'll die." When he calls, "let your voice mail pick up now and then," says Sherry Argov, author of ."It shows him that you're worth the wait and effort.Allow him to simmer, wondering what you're doing." Laura,* 21, won over her boyfriend using this trick.