After going through the normal flip out and that my dating life would now consist of Ben and Jerry’s and DVD’s every Saturday night, I’m ready to get out there again.I have seen men post on various dating sites where they come right out on their profile stating they have herpes. I've always had a fear of STDs, I'm not sure why, I'm just a germo. Statistically speaking, I know the odds I contracted it are very small. I've gotten better as I've gotten older, but I've tried to be careful to protect myself. Most of the data I've read indicate somewhere around 2% per year from female to male with regular condom use. ED: When I was diagnosed, the person I was dating was the classic college boy.
She apparently requested a full battery of tests, to try and fully ease my mind as we discussed my worries in the past and she was confident she didn't have anything.
Ella Dawson: Now, when I date, I have to have a conversation about the fact that I have an STI.
That used to really freak me out, especially in the beginning when I was newly diagnosed and still learning about the virus and very self-conscious about it.
As far as I can figure if I want to try and stay with her, perhaps just suggesting we don't have sex while I sort through this is a good approach. Taking the risk of contracting it (assuming I haven't already) is a big risk even if statistically small as women I'd date in the future I'd obviously have to tell assuming I tested positive.
I have gone through "the conversation" a million times in my mind.